"The endings of life give life’s meanings a chance to show."
— Stephen Jenkinson
When all is said and done, we realise that a how well we live is inextricably tied to how good we are at endings. To meet them with grace, resolve, and wholeness can happen powerfully when we enter into ritual and allow our families and communities to hold us.
We live most fully when we experience the whole gamut of emotions and, while heightened joy is among my favourites, I also come into myself most truly when I allow myself to be melancholy. Far from collapsing into unfettered sadness, to grieve is a skill. As a believer in the value of learning to end well, I continually strive to find meaningful and grounded ways to honour what has been, so that we can carry on with ever more fortitude and presence.
Whether grounded in interpretations of Jewish tradition (gett ceremony, mikvah, havdallah, etc) or something of our own co-creation, I will seek to understand what has been, and help you to envision what can be, as we walk together toward this threshold.
Funerals, Memorials, Shiva Prayers and Unveilings/Consecrations
When a loved one dies, we are gifted with the opportunity to honour their life in a way that deepens our familial ties and offers witness to our grieving.
As a living bridge, I am ever conscious of the value in guiding death rituals in a way that invite people to honour, remember and grieve, and I am committed to guiding in ways which are aligned with the faith practices (or lack thereof) of both the mourners and the one whom they mourn.
In the immediate aftermath of a death, these rituals can include funerals (in a funeral home, at home or at the graveside), cremation ceremonies, shiva minyans or memorial gatherings.
Within the first year after a death, I can also support additional closure through the unveiling or consecration of a gravestone.
In a time when we are under constant pressure to “live happily ever after”, it can be gut-wrenching to embrace a change in relationship status. The ripples which comes from the end of a marriage or long-time partnership are significant, not only for us, but for those in our families and communities.
Choosing to ritualise the end of a relationship can, if done well, can be as beautiful as that which started it all, and can leave everyone involved with a blessed sense of wholeness and resolution.
Reaching menopause is a universal rite of passage for women as they enter the autumn season of their lives. Change comes at every level and ritual can be useful and powerful in honouring what has been and re-posturing to embrace the next stage of life with joy.
Moving into Retirement
Whether downsizing or moving into a retirement community, leaving a home can be liberating, relieving, overwhelming, grief-inducing and more. Our sense of “home” is fundamental to our identities and a range of emotions can re-surface as we move, especially if we are leaving a long-time home (whether the physical dwelling or a neighbourhood or even city).
I can work with individuals and families to bring closure, offer gratitude, remember what has been and bless what will be in a ritual that is both an ending and a beautiful new beginning.